When You Start Thinking That You Are Not Good Enough
The most worrying thing for me is to hear someone tell me, “Just stop it!” When you’re anxious, and a person tells you, “Stop worrying, it will all be fine…” these words only add gas to the fire and make you angry. At least that is genuine for me. When you start thinking that you are not good enough, what ar you doing that time?
It reminds me of a funny video I watched about a “unique” therapeutic approach, when a therapist just tells a patient, after listening to their troubles with deep emotional issues, “STOP IT!”
But I can’t just stop all it, this issue has been inside of my mind since childhood and my mom used to do the same – the affected person responds.
But the therapist just calmly responds, “We don’t go there. Just prevent it.”
If it has been that much easier to stop it: the limiting beliefs, the destructive behaviour, the unwanted outcomes, the poisonous relationships, etc. All humans might be skinny, rich, and happy, and we’d live in the correct word, however, unfortunately, that’s not the case.
You can’t just stop a feeling, particularly one that tells you “you aren’t truly sufficient.”
No matter how strong & firmly I work on my growth and myself, the emotions of inadequacy and comparisons to others creep in once in a while, mainly while things don’t cross in step with my plans. It is so normal & easy for me to blame myself after I’m feeling frustrated.
No matter how difficult I attempt to push away the feeling that I’m no longer good enough; it doesn’t move away. It simply strengthens. The greater I face up to those feelings, the extra it persists.
The ironic element is that my intellectual mind is aware that it’s now not true that I’m no longer excellent enough. On a great day, I feel powerful and anchored, and I recognize my value. But on a horrific day—after I fail at something or take matters personally—I can’t appear to stop the wave of terrible emotions that take me over.
I’ve learned that I can’t simply snap out of a bad feeling. I can’t just forestall it. And I can’t bottle it.
So what can you do while your inner voice tells you “you aren’t excellent enough”?
Well, first of all, you want to acknowledge what you’re feeling. When you accept your emotions rather than changing, they have less energy over you, and can even serve you through encouraging your growth.
For example, I currently attended a local speaking membership in which a French female offered a speech. She spoke in English; however, as I talk French, I desired to complement her speech in the French language.
To my big annoyance, my thoughts just went clear after “Excellent travail!” I couldn’t think of any other word. I quickly switched to English; however, I felt like a failure.
My logical thoughts were saying, “It’s okay, you don’t use French regularly, that’s why you forgot,” but my emotional mind awakened all my gremlins, who were screaming at me “You are not right sufficient!”
I felt frustrated; however, that incident advocated for me to go again to my French books to refresh my memory. I loved rereading Le Petit Prince, and at the end, I felt good.
It might be an easy example; however, that’s how our psychology works.
When you see your lack of confidence in the eyes, it reveals an opportunity for fulfilment or improvement. Don’t deny it; pay attention to it. Don’t engage in the emotions it produces—the feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, and shame; simply listen to what it has to say.
It doesn’t matter how much I say to you, “You are beautiful and best the way you are” (and by using the manner, this is, in reality, genuine); while you look at yourself in the mirror and you don’t like what you see, you may discover it difficult to agree with this. Your inner voice would possibly tell you, “You aren’t good enough as you’re right now.”
Acknowledge that voice and don’t forget that perhaps your lack of confidence has some constructive value; for example, maybe your inner voice is trying to encourage you to start ingesting more healthy or operating out.
You also need to accept the worry that you’re no longer truly sufficient as part of yourself. I don’t care wherein you are in life—how successful, loved, and fulfilled you may feel—we all focus on our flaws and imperfections from time to time. It’s called being human. We can’t always be at our fine and most confident. And that is okay.
It’s okay from time to time to feel like you are not appropriate enough, so long as you apprehend that mind and feelings aren’t statistics and don’t dwell in that state.
These wobbly moments are unpleasant, however inevitable; you can’t avoid them.
Give yourself permission to be imperfect, to question and doubt yourself now and again. Without questions and doubts, we wouldn’t be capable of developing.
I accept as true through wrestling with the weaknesses we are capable of getting to the other side of our strengths. But we can’t just forget about our shortcomings. They’re an undeniable part of us. We need to be aware and own the correct, the bad, and the unpleasant inside us, so we are better geared up to address our limitations.
So, the question isn’t how to put off the negative voice; however, the way to analyze to deal with it in an intelligent, mature, and conscious way. Listen to it, analyze from it, but don’t let it outline who you are, don’t let it write your story.
Don’t be frightened of it and don’t try to prevent it; allow it to help you research about who you’re and who you can be.